Do Not Depend on People

First off, my apologies for last three days. I didn’t write. And I found another reason why I should hate College. I was so happy before the semester started. I had scheduled classes only on Tuesdays and Thursdays. But turns out that my bio teacher(Yes I have to take biology as well, i know it sucks) is making a schedule that ‘suits’ him not students.

I really wanted to write about this topic. I know it would just take a paragraph or two to say what needs to be said. Lately I have been thinking a lot about how we sometimes start relying so much on others. And ultimately end up hurting ourselves. One thing is clear. The world is selfish. But that doesn’t mean we should start behaving selfish to everyone. You just need to be a little careful. And by that I mean try not to depend on others.

Why I wanted to write about this? Because I think I have been too dependent on some people. And when they decided to walk away, it was a little hard for to gather myself and move on. So its better at first not to attach expectations to others. And when I say do not depend on other people, it means both in your professional lives and personal.

I am sorry if that sounds cold to you. Does that? I think it does. Well I’m not gonna remove it because I really wanted to write about it. Sorry I’m just being honest.

Try Again. Fail Again. Fail Better.

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
Samuel Beckett

Dear friend, this is the first and probably the last time I’m writing on this topic. The thing is, so much have been said and there’s no need for another post especially on a blog that just got 400 hits. But still, lets just hope it helps. :)

When we are kids, the idea of failure is presented to us as a nightmare in our lives. So when we are grown up we don’t want to fail in anything we do. But when you learned how to walk, you fell over. Over and over again. May be you hurt yourself sometimes and also cried a little. But you learned to walk finally like you already knew it. Wouldn’t it be great if all us keep up this way of thinking about failures? I vote Yes!

Instead of being too hard on ourselves, after failure, we should rather give ourself a break and think about what we have learned. You might have got a bad grade at school, or your ego keeps tagging you as a loser, or may be you think it’s not normal and you are too old for this stuff. Let me tell you again (I mean you already know it), all the greatest figures in the history failed at some point in time in their lives but they learned and used it in succeeding. Henry Ford put it most eloquently: “Failure is the opportunity to begin again, more intelligently”. You can’t learn if you don’t fail. If you put effort and you fail, celebrate it because you have learned something you wouldn’t have if you succeeded. And if you think you didn’t even put effort, then there must be a reason. Find out that. I mean if I will ask My daughter to major in Biotechnology while she likes Literature, she’s obviously gonna fail.

And most important thing about failure is that it makes you stronger. You are able to handle things that you weren’t able to before. So watch Michael Jordan’s video and Cheer up! Happy failure :)

Job is Not a Solution, Start Your Own Business

” Small-business innovation is key to moving country forward” says Barack Obama.

Meeting up with some Business people at Lahore Chamber of Commerce today was pretty interesting and motivating. For all of you who don’t know, main aim of the Chamber, it’s to help small and medium size businesses and encourage innovative startups. Why so? Why not help big giants to be stronger? Obviously big companies generally get most of our attention. And success of big companies is also critical to the success of small and medium size businesses. But it’s small and medium businesses that drive a country’s economic growth and create 2 out of 3 jobs in America.

Anyways, purpose of this blog post is not to advocate for SME’s.  The thing is, it’s really sad that our youth is running after jobs and nobody seemed to have decided to do something big for their society. And that shows how self-centered we have become as a nation. Obtain a degree, find a job, get married and pass on the selfish nature. Pakistan needs to wake up before it’s too late.

All of us are blessed with wonderful talents and love for something. We just need to figure it out. And trust me, once you do figure that out you won’t even think of anything else. And if each one us starts focusing on to be the best we can be, there could be no better way to contribute to our society. So yes, i would encourage you to follow you heart and start something that you love.

Share with us, what’s the love of your life?

I Want to Learn but College Sucks

My selection of this topic for today’s post is the result of three ‘busy’ days I spent at college. They kind of sucked.. I don’t know I’m just not able to feel the excitement and cherish my time there despite the fact that its gonna be my last semester. I think I don’t see value in it anymore. If a lecturer will just make us read chapters from books and take quizzes then this is what I can do better if i stay home, grab a cup of coffee and sit in front of my computer.

I’m not saying there’s nothing to learn in college, there certainly are many things. But good colleges cost a lot of money and there are people who cant afford to send their kids to those colleges. I’m now officially against the idea of joining a school or university. If you cannot join an institute that’s totally fine, you can still follow your heart and that also may be for free(thanks to internet). For example, want to become an amazing writer? Connect with your favorite authors online and write everyday.  Want to be the next best chef? Put  the time in to learn how to cook and start it now. You just have to take the initiative. I really don’t like the idea that anyone who’s been to college is perceived to know better than those who haven’t been there.

I know having a degree from a renowned college sure gives a very good feeling and may also promise you a very good livelihood as well. But its sad how most of the people who are teaching at universities do not have any real life experience. And the teachers who do have some experience are too reluctant to ditch the traditional teaching style. I am now done with 3 and 1/2 years of my ‘professional’ degree and I am not sure if I have superior knowledge to a guy who’s been working since last three years in the field and never went to college. I’m paying to learn and still there is no guarantee whether that would happen or not and that guy is getting paid to learn and certainly will do that. Hmm so I’m just waiting to get over this semester and actually start doing things that will help me make some difference.

Good thing is, I am very cold and I don’t miss things, I just move on. So yes Forman, I’m not gonna miss you.