An Email from Tucker Max to James Altucher

I have read James Altucher’s ‘Choose Yourself’ twice recently. First I bought the book in Kindle since the price was almost nothing but after having read it I knew I would like a paperback of that in my library. So once I got the paperback, I read it again. And as Nassim N. Taleb once said, “A good book gets better at the second reading. A great book at the third. Any book not worth rereading isn’t worth reading.” Altucher’s book did get better at the 2nd time and I enjoyed it a lot more than I did the first time. While JA was trying to make a point about being emotionally healthy by staying positive and not to engage our thoughts with haters he narrated a personal experience. A well known pundit once tweeted that one of his books was crap. On being asked about the comment she admitted to her dislike for the title which resulted in that tweet although, obviously, she hadn’t read the book. So James went ahead and wrote a blog post about it. And out of nowhere he got an email from one of his readers, which I would like to share with you guys. The email went:

     “I assume your blog post was mostly tongue in cheek about the feedback affecting you in a negative way. But if not, then please take this compliment to heart: From one very successful writer to another. I love your blog. Yes, it has its quirks and stylistic issues, but it is utterly original and compelling, and that is an attribute that is incredibly rare. There is so much writing out there, and so little of it is worth a shit – but your blog is one of those that are worth a shit.

     I subscribe to like 25 blogs in my RSS feed, and yours is one. And I don’t even actively invest –  I could care less about your financial advice.

     Please keep doing what you are doing, and please don’t let the cowardly commentary from the ignorant sheep and trolls get you down. There are a ton of us out here that read everything you put on your blog, and thoroughly enjoy it, but we don’t tend to speak up one way or the other, because we are normal people with normal lives. Who even writes Amazon reviews? I have entertained millions of people, literally millions, but from Amazon reviews you would think my job was to punch babies in the mouth. That’s the shitty part about the internet, and anonymous feedback, is that you tend to hear from extremes, those that either love you more than reasonable, or those who are just spreading toxicity.

    Fuck those people. You do great work, and I really appreciate it.

     I hate to sound like a weirdo Buddhist, but the only thins that really matter in this world are the relationships you have with the people you love, and the meaningful things that you do. Haters don’t fit anywhere into that. Don’t devote any mental space to them.”

The email was signed:

“Tucker Max”

The reason I wanted to share the email with you was the point TM was making. Almost each and every one of us have haters in our lives and no matter what we do they would always be hating. Only way we can defeat them is by denying any metal space to them. Not even engaging our thoughts with them, let alone alone engaging ourselves with them.

Commitments Are IMPORTANT!!

Do you fail to keep commitments? Or did you ever notice how many people fail to keep commitments? This is a growing problem in our society especially when it comes to beloved politicians and the kind hearted businessmen.

It is said that keeping commitments is the single most important factor in an individual’s success. Without commitments, there’s nothing to work for. Commitment means you have your words and you are ready to take responsibility for what you say. To commit is to solemnly undertake to a certain purpose or a line of conduct. And backing out should be out of question.

But sadly, thats not the case around. People back out of what they say and they don’t even feel sorry for that. And this shows how important commitments are for them. Today my friend and I were supposed to see someone for business purposes. We had to prepare for that. We did. And I won’t go into details but it took us a good amount of time. So we were all set to leave for the meeting and my friend’s phone buzzed- ” I am out of town, we’ll meet up tomorrow.” This message wasted a whole day effort.

We still will meet up tomorrow. But the thing is we should respect others and their time as well. People have plans and they like to move according to the plans, if you don’t. And if we cant stand by what we say, we should rather avoid. And thats better, trust me.

Do Not Depend on People

First off, my apologies for last three days. I didn’t write. And I found another reason why I should hate College. I was so happy before the semester started. I had scheduled classes only on Tuesdays and Thursdays. But turns out that my bio teacher(Yes I have to take biology as well, i know it sucks) is making a schedule that ‘suits’ him not students.

I really wanted to write about this topic. I know it would just take a paragraph or two to say what needs to be said. Lately I have been thinking a lot about how we sometimes start relying so much on others. And ultimately end up hurting ourselves. One thing is clear. The world is selfish. But that doesn’t mean we should start behaving selfish to everyone. You just need to be a little careful. And by that I mean try not to depend on others.

Why I wanted to write about this? Because I think I have been too dependent on some people. And when they decided to walk away, it was a little hard for to gather myself and move on. So its better at first not to attach expectations to others. And when I say do not depend on other people, it means both in your professional lives and personal.

I am sorry if that sounds cold to you. Does that? I think it does. Well I’m not gonna remove it because I really wanted to write about it. Sorry I’m just being honest.

Try Again. Fail Again. Fail Better.

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
Samuel Beckett

Dear friend, this is the first and probably the last time I’m writing on this topic. The thing is, so much have been said and there’s no need for another post especially on a blog that just got 400 hits. But still, lets just hope it helps. :)

When we are kids, the idea of failure is presented to us as a nightmare in our lives. So when we are grown up we don’t want to fail in anything we do. But when you learned how to walk, you fell over. Over and over again. May be you hurt yourself sometimes and also cried a little. But you learned to walk finally like you already knew it. Wouldn’t it be great if all us keep up this way of thinking about failures? I vote Yes!

Instead of being too hard on ourselves, after failure, we should rather give ourself a break and think about what we have learned. You might have got a bad grade at school, or your ego keeps tagging you as a loser, or may be you think it’s not normal and you are too old for this stuff. Let me tell you again (I mean you already know it), all the greatest figures in the history failed at some point in time in their lives but they learned and used it in succeeding. Henry Ford put it most eloquently: “Failure is the opportunity to begin again, more intelligently”. You can’t learn if you don’t fail. If you put effort and you fail, celebrate it because you have learned something you wouldn’t have if you succeeded. And if you think you didn’t even put effort, then there must be a reason. Find out that. I mean if I will ask My daughter to major in Biotechnology while she likes Literature, she’s obviously gonna fail.

And most important thing about failure is that it makes you stronger. You are able to handle things that you weren’t able to before. So watch Michael Jordan’s video and Cheer up! Happy failure :)

Job is Not a Solution, Start Your Own Business

” Small-business innovation is key to moving country forward” says Barack Obama.

Meeting up with some Business people at Lahore Chamber of Commerce today was pretty interesting and motivating. For all of you who don’t know, main aim of the Chamber, it’s to help small and medium size businesses and encourage innovative startups. Why so? Why not help big giants to be stronger? Obviously big companies generally get most of our attention. And success of big companies is also critical to the success of small and medium size businesses. But it’s small and medium businesses that drive a country’s economic growth and create 2 out of 3 jobs in America.

Anyways, purpose of this blog post is not to advocate for SME’s.  The thing is, it’s really sad that our youth is running after jobs and nobody seemed to have decided to do something big for their society. And that shows how self-centered we have become as a nation. Obtain a degree, find a job, get married and pass on the selfish nature. Pakistan needs to wake up before it’s too late.

All of us are blessed with wonderful talents and love for something. We just need to figure it out. And trust me, once you do figure that out you won’t even think of anything else. And if each one us starts focusing on to be the best we can be, there could be no better way to contribute to our society. So yes, i would encourage you to follow you heart and start something that you love.

Share with us, what’s the love of your life?

I Want to Learn but College Sucks

My selection of this topic for today’s post is the result of three ‘busy’ days I spent at college. They kind of sucked.. I don’t know I’m just not able to feel the excitement and cherish my time there despite the fact that its gonna be my last semester. I think I don’t see value in it anymore. If a lecturer will just make us read chapters from books and take quizzes then this is what I can do better if i stay home, grab a cup of coffee and sit in front of my computer.

I’m not saying there’s nothing to learn in college, there certainly are many things. But good colleges cost a lot of money and there are people who cant afford to send their kids to those colleges. I’m now officially against the idea of joining a school or university. If you cannot join an institute that’s totally fine, you can still follow your heart and that also may be for free(thanks to internet). For example, want to become an amazing writer? Connect with your favorite authors online and write everyday.  Want to be the next best chef? Put  the time in to learn how to cook and start it now. You just have to take the initiative. I really don’t like the idea that anyone who’s been to college is perceived to know better than those who haven’t been there.

I know having a degree from a renowned college sure gives a very good feeling and may also promise you a very good livelihood as well. But its sad how most of the people who are teaching at universities do not have any real life experience. And the teachers who do have some experience are too reluctant to ditch the traditional teaching style. I am now done with 3 and 1/2 years of my ‘professional’ degree and I am not sure if I have superior knowledge to a guy who’s been working since last three years in the field and never went to college. I’m paying to learn and still there is no guarantee whether that would happen or not and that guy is getting paid to learn and certainly will do that. Hmm so I’m just waiting to get over this semester and actually start doing things that will help me make some difference.

Good thing is, I am very cold and I don’t miss things, I just move on. So yes Forman, I’m not gonna miss you.

Is It Easy To Do Business With You?

It might sound a little rude but yes I’m asking you this question. I’ve been reading stories about the good businesses around the globe and also been observing the behavior of local businesses. I know the purpose of a business is to earn profit at the end of the day but sometimes its inevitable to think of human side of the business. And no business is one man show, business people are always looking out for people-clients, employees, partners and sometimes even competitors.

Sadly, most of the local businessmen here are just after making money and exploiting others. They don’t understand the true spirit of running a business. And this may be or could be on the reasons we do not have  a multinational organization in Pakistan to the date.

You have to show that you care not just for money but for people. You know well that you are gonna need them to work but the important question here is why the heck would someone like to work with you/for you and not Tom? The answer is because you make it easy for them to do business with you. You are in good books of your employees, customers and your partners. Running a good business requires an attitude of giving and working to increase the size of cake instead of our own slice. Think win-win!

Passion and Perfect Intentions

My post about taking the first step was visited by quite a few people which came to me as a happy surprise because I wasn’t really expecting that. So first, thanks to all of those friends and strangers (well I do believe strangers are the friends we don’t know yet :)) who stopped by my blog.

Secondly, a few of my friends asked me these questions, “What after you have some how managed to take the first step? What ensures that you’ll fulfill your dream? Or what did you actually mean by holding on? I believe these questions were very genuine so I decided to write a post to address them.

My answer to those questions is a blend of Passion and Perfect Intentions. It might sound obvious to you. But before you roll your eyes and exclaim that I stated the obvious, ask yourself, “Do I have passion for or intention of what i am doing right now?” May be you don’t have either one of them. And even if one of them is missing, you are wasting your energies and I’m sorry if that sounds a little harsh, chances are you will end up as a dissatisfied person. And you definitely don’t want that :)

And this I’m not just saying about our business or professional career but all the spheres of our lives. Yes, passion is really important. Because without it, it is hard to stay motivated. You need passion to drive you to work harder and harder to learn something. You need passion for what you do to give you the strength to tough out the hard days at work.  In other words, passion or being passionate is the fire inside us and in our lives that drives us forward-whether it’s for our work, our hobbies, or for our relationships. And i believe without intentions passion goes wasted. Our actions depends on our intentions. And for that matter, let me ask you a question, If person A does something very selfish to person B but the person B accidentally benefits greatly from that, would that count to the good deeds of A? Obviously not!! You cant do a good deed by accident, its still a selfish act, intention is everything.

I hope you enjoyed the post. Have your say in comment box!

Take a step toward your dreams

“A journey of a thousand Miles, Begins with the First Step” -Quote

Lately, i have been thinking a lot about the idea of success. What makes a person successful? What differentiates successful people from ordinary ones? Is there a set of rules to be followed to achieve success? Meditating on this questions really makes your head spin.

Everyone desires success (obviously means different things to different people) yet there are so few who actually put in effort.  And some of the people who are willing put in effort are just too hesitant to begin.  I have been a hesitant person all my life. It took me a long while to realize how much power and energy i was wasting. All i needed to do was to take an initiative.

It, no doubt, is absolutely wonderful what you can achieve when you assume the complete responsibility of your life and start following your dreams. And the most important word in the previous sentence is “start”. Yes, you will have to take the first step. Because it is usually the hardest and certainly the most important one. Believe in your dreams, take an initiative and hold onto that. Because the only thing between you and your dreams(success)  is the very initiative you are not taking. If you want to change your life, you will have to take the first step. I am not saying the rest would be smooth and easy but you cant really think of rest without taking the first step.

Take the first step toward your dreams, for only then you begin to accomplish them. :)

Are you taking initiative?