I have read James Altucher’s ‘Choose Yourself’ twice recently. First I bought the book in Kindle since the price was almost nothing but after having read it I knew I would like a paperback of that in my library. So once I got the paperback, I read it again. And as Nassim N. Taleb once said, “A good book gets better at the second reading. A great book at the third. Any book not worth rereading isn’t worth reading.” Altucher’s book did get better at the 2nd time and I enjoyed it a lot more than I did the first time. While JA was trying to make a point about being emotionally healthy by staying positive and not to engage our thoughts with haters he narrated a personal experience. A well known pundit once tweeted that one of his books was crap. On being asked about the comment she admitted to her dislike for the title which resulted in that tweet although, obviously, she hadn’t read the book. So James went ahead and wrote a blog post about it. And out of nowhere he got an email from one of his readers, which I would like to share with you guys. The email went:
“I assume your blog post was mostly tongue in cheek about the feedback affecting you in a negative way. But if not, then please take this compliment to heart: From one very successful writer to another. I love your blog. Yes, it has its quirks and stylistic issues, but it is utterly original and compelling, and that is an attribute that is incredibly rare. There is so much writing out there, and so little of it is worth a shit – but your blog is one of those that are worth a shit.
I subscribe to like 25 blogs in my RSS feed, and yours is one. And I don’t even actively invest – I could care less about your financial advice.
Please keep doing what you are doing, and please don’t let the cowardly commentary from the ignorant sheep and trolls get you down. There are a ton of us out here that read everything you put on your blog, and thoroughly enjoy it, but we don’t tend to speak up one way or the other, because we are normal people with normal lives. Who even writes Amazon reviews? I have entertained millions of people, literally millions, but from Amazon reviews you would think my job was to punch babies in the mouth. That’s the shitty part about the internet, and anonymous feedback, is that you tend to hear from extremes, those that either love you more than reasonable, or those who are just spreading toxicity.
Fuck those people. You do great work, and I really appreciate it.
I hate to sound like a weirdo Buddhist, but the only thins that really matter in this world are the relationships you have with the people you love, and the meaningful things that you do. Haters don’t fit anywhere into that. Don’t devote any mental space to them.”
The email was signed:
The reason I wanted to share the email with you was the point TM was making. Almost each and every one of us have haters in our lives and no matter what we do they would always be hating. Only way we can defeat them is by denying any metal space to them. Not even engaging our thoughts with them, let alone alone engaging ourselves with them.
Do you fail to keep commitments? Or did you ever notice how many people fail to keep commitments? This is a growing problem in our society especially when it comes to beloved politicians and the kind hearted businessmen.
It is said that keeping commitments is the single most important factor in an individual’s success. Without commitments, there’s nothing to work for. Commitment means you have your words and you are ready to take responsibility for what you say. To commit is to solemnly undertake to a certain purpose or a line of conduct. And backing out should be out of question.
But sadly, thats not the case around. People back out of what they say and they don’t even feel sorry for that. And this shows how important commitments are for them. Today my friend and I were supposed to see someone for business purposes. We had to prepare for that. We did. And I won’t go into details but it took us a good amount of time. So we were all set to leave for the meeting and my friend’s phone buzzed- ” I am out of town, we’ll meet up tomorrow.” This message wasted a whole day effort.
We still will meet up tomorrow. But the thing is we should respect others and their time as well. People have plans and they like to move according to the plans, if you don’t. And if we cant stand by what we say, we should rather avoid. And thats better, trust me.
First off, my apologies for last three days. I didn’t write. And I found another reason why I should hate College. I was so happy before the semester started. I had scheduled classes only on Tuesdays and Thursdays. But turns out that my bio teacher(Yes I have to take biology as well, i know it sucks) is making a schedule that ‘suits’ him not students.
I really wanted to write about this topic. I know it would just take a paragraph or two to say what needs to be said. Lately I have been thinking a lot about how we sometimes start relying so much on others. And ultimately end up hurting ourselves. One thing is clear. The world is selfish. But that doesn’t mean we should start behaving selfish to everyone. You just need to be a little careful. And by that I mean try not to depend on others.
Why I wanted to write about this? Because I think I have been too dependent on some people. And when they decided to walk away, it was a little hard for to gather myself and move on. So its better at first not to attach expectations to others. And when I say do not depend on other people, it means both in your professional lives and personal.
I am sorry if that sounds cold to you. Does that? I think it does. Well I’m not gonna remove it because I really wanted to write about it. Sorry I’m just being honest.
I dedicate this blog post to all those ‘marketers’ or social media ‘gurus’ who love to write E-books and give them away for free to later claim that they have a ‘giving attitude’.
Giving attitude doesn’t mean you start giving crap to people and expect them to respect you in return for that. I happened to read an E-book today, it wasn’t a very long one though (I like to finish books I once start reading, I know its stupid sometimes but I can’t help it, sorry). And the moment I was finished reading the book, words that came out of my mouth go like ” Thank you blah blah blah for wasting my time”. And then I thought for a moment that she did actually waste my time. But I read her book and thats what she wanted people to do, mission fulfilled? Yes, may be. So what happens now? Now that I’ve read her ‘master piece’, I might not wanna go to her blog again, never read her tweets or even end up unfollowing her. Yah.
So my appeal to you is, if you are a blogger, marketer or a social media guru and you also like to write E-books, please keep few things in mind.
- Do not write an E-book if you don’t know the stuff you are talking about, learn first.
- And if you do know something but you don’t wanna give it away for free, don’t write just for the sake of writing a book.
- Do not copy and paste stuff, people are smart.
- Anything pointless is annoying.
I thinks thats about it.. Did you ever read an E-book that you think wasted your time?
It might sound a little rude but yes I’m asking you this question. I’ve been reading stories about the good businesses around the globe and also been observing the behavior of local businesses. I know the purpose of a business is to earn profit at the end of the day but sometimes its inevitable to think of human side of the business. And no business is one man show, business people are always looking out for people-clients, employees, partners and sometimes even competitors.
Sadly, most of the local businessmen here are just after making money and exploiting others. They don’t understand the true spirit of running a business. And this may be or could be on the reasons we do not have a multinational organization in Pakistan to the date.
You have to show that you care not just for money but for people. You know well that you are gonna need them to work but the important question here is why the heck would someone like to work with you/for you and not Tom? The answer is because you make it easy for them to do business with you. You are in good books of your employees, customers and your partners. Running a good business requires an attitude of giving and working to increase the size of cake instead of our own slice. Think win-win!
A few days back, in my Business Law class, my teacher shared a story about the start of her professional career as a teacher. It wasn’t something very inspirational or motivating but more like a warning. Well, she told us how her ’employers’ manipulated the fact that she was new to that profession. And she told us that we ‘will’ be taken advantage of at the beginning just because we will be new to the market. That sounds really cruel and unfair.
My question is, why cant we be sincere in our acts and play clean? Why just Rs. 5000 or even less makes us compromise on principles?
I do not believe a good entrepreneur would ever be unjust in his actions and be manipulative. So if you are a good entrepreneur that means you are a good employer and you make your employees feel good about working for you.
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